Sources
Sources
http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/mere_exposure.htm
http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/proprinquity_effect.htm#Description
http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/contact_hypothesis.htm
http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/mere_exposure.htm
http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/proprinquity_effect.htm#Description
http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/contact_hypothesis.htm
Script
Hello everybody and welcome back to Sai-cology, with me, Saira.
Today’s topic is the second installment in the “How to Make People Like You” category and this topic is called “Hang Around.”
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Hang Around is the idea that the people we hang around and are near are the people we like. Well that seems obvious. And a lot of it is. It just makes sense—a lot of psychological theories and effects do —but just think of this as validation for what you already knew—some scientific evidence to your hunch, and maybe, you’ll learn something new.
First up – Be Direct!...ional.. If you’re feet or body are facing the direction of the person you are trying to make an impression on, they are more likely to get a vibe that you like themand thanks to Reciprocal Liking (card), like you more.
Next -The Mere Exposure Effect. This idea is all about how the more familiar you are with something, the more you will like it. Sometimes this can feel annoying or creepy – I mean it’s basically saying show up and be around a person to make them like you. This works for people, places, products—you can use this not only for friends but job interviews— If you follow the job recruiter on social media, introduce yourself any time you get the chance, apply for multiple positions or multiple times (over the years) it starts to form a pattern of recognition in their head. They’ll like the name they’ve seen 10 times more than the name they’re seeing for the first time if all other factors are equal.But be careful not to over do it. Make sure to read the person if they are even open to the exposure. Also if you overexpose then people start ignoring and reading each time as annoying and negative.Think of how often you see a commercial – you eventually warm up to it and then when you’re just about sick of it, they change the commercial.
Similar to this is the Propinquity Effect. This goes further than just exposure but interaction and how more of that leads to a higher likelihood of friendship. This is why we are more likely to be friends with people who we work closely with or have the same classes or activities as. Both functional distance and physical proximity comes into play. While they sound very similar, the Mere Exposure Effect is what helps explain how the Propinquity Effect works.
But, what if someone already doesn’t like us? How can we change that using the principles we learned today? Well there is something called the Contact Hypothesis that may help. This is a principle that helps bring together people who are alreadyin conflict. There are six conditions to foster this.
So if you want people to like you using the theories and principles we talked about today, be sure to hang around. Really. Make sure you have lots of positive, proximate, exposure so they’ll be sure to first even know who you are, and have a familiarity bias to you.
If you want to check out my sources for this video or other cool psychology resources, check the description box below. Be sure to like, subscribe and hit that bell so you won’t miss the next episode where you’ll learn more tips and tricks to make people like you and change minds. Also, be sure to comment any questions, thoughts or experiences you have and remember, to behave yourself.
Today’s topic is the second installment in the “How to Make People Like You” category and this topic is called “Hang Around.”
Sai-Cology Card
Hang Around is the idea that the people we hang around and are near are the people we like. Well that seems obvious. And a lot of it is. It just makes sense—a lot of psychological theories and effects do —but just think of this as validation for what you already knew—some scientific evidence to your hunch, and maybe, you’ll learn something new.
First up – Be Direct!...ional.. If you’re feet or body are facing the direction of the person you are trying to make an impression on, they are more likely to get a vibe that you like themand thanks to Reciprocal Liking (card), like you more.
Next -The Mere Exposure Effect. This idea is all about how the more familiar you are with something, the more you will like it. Sometimes this can feel annoying or creepy – I mean it’s basically saying show up and be around a person to make them like you. This works for people, places, products—you can use this not only for friends but job interviews— If you follow the job recruiter on social media, introduce yourself any time you get the chance, apply for multiple positions or multiple times (over the years) it starts to form a pattern of recognition in their head. They’ll like the name they’ve seen 10 times more than the name they’re seeing for the first time if all other factors are equal.But be careful not to over do it. Make sure to read the person if they are even open to the exposure. Also if you overexpose then people start ignoring and reading each time as annoying and negative.Think of how often you see a commercial – you eventually warm up to it and then when you’re just about sick of it, they change the commercial.
Similar to this is the Propinquity Effect. This goes further than just exposure but interaction and how more of that leads to a higher likelihood of friendship. This is why we are more likely to be friends with people who we work closely with or have the same classes or activities as. Both functional distance and physical proximity comes into play. While they sound very similar, the Mere Exposure Effect is what helps explain how the Propinquity Effect works.
But, what if someone already doesn’t like us? How can we change that using the principles we learned today? Well there is something called the Contact Hypothesis that may help. This is a principle that helps bring together people who are alreadyin conflict. There are six conditions to foster this.
- Remove Conflict – whatever the source of the issue is, resolve it.
- Mutual Interdependence – Both parties or people need to want to cooperate.
- Equal Status – No one side should have advantages that the other doesn’t
- Positive Contact – when the parties meet there must be friendly interactions
- Typical Contact – When people meet it must be perceived as normal both to themselves and others
- Social Norms of Equality – in a cultural and social context, both parties must be seen as equal.
So if you want people to like you using the theories and principles we talked about today, be sure to hang around. Really. Make sure you have lots of positive, proximate, exposure so they’ll be sure to first even know who you are, and have a familiarity bias to you.
If you want to check out my sources for this video or other cool psychology resources, check the description box below. Be sure to like, subscribe and hit that bell so you won’t miss the next episode where you’ll learn more tips and tricks to make people like you and change minds. Also, be sure to comment any questions, thoughts or experiences you have and remember, to behave yourself.